Replace The Payoffs

When we look into the behaviors of ourselves and others we have to understand that these behaviors are there for a reason; that there is an emotional payoff attached to them. This is why it sometimes is difficult to change bad habits with new ones. In order to change a poor behavior you need to figure out a way to replace the emotional payoff and switch it to the new behavior you would like to establish. Ask yourself; is there another way I can experience the same payoff?